It is important in life to learn specific skills in order to become successful, as well as feel successful. There are times in your life when you will hit some “stumbling blocks,” but it is in how you handling the situation that will make a difference. It is not the situation itself that determines the outcome, but rather your attitude towards it and the actions you take to resolve it. For example, the recent flooding of the Delaware River in New Jersey undoubtedly caused devastation for a lot of people. But recovery efforts are underway, and there are some people that are making the best of the situation by helping out their neighbors. In other words, they learned how to stand tall.
The phrase “stand tall” is defined as being proud of yourself and confident of your abilities. It also means demonstrating strength and courage. It is one life skill that is mandatory to learn and use throughout your daily life. You have to believe in your abilities in order strive for your dreams and goals, as well as get through the trials and tribulations in life. You could not prevent the flooding that occurred, but you can control your actions and attitude in its aftermath.
The second part of this concept is to know when to bow down. This does not mean to lie down or give up. What it does mean is that you should know when you need help, and be able to ask for it. There are times when you are faced with a situation that you cannot possibly handle on your own. For instance, in the aftermath of the flooding, you may need your neighbor’s help to make your home livable again. That’s when you should “bow down” and ask him or her for their assistance. In working together, you accomplish more in a shorter period of time. In addition to getting the cleanup done, you are building a relationship of mutual trust and respect.
Your neighbor may also know this concept and ask for your help in return. With the relationship you are building, it naturally follows that you lend your assistance. In other words, in helping each other both of you are using a combination of these concepts. One stands tall while the other bows down, then the roles change. In bowing down, you allow the other person to stand tall.
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